Commitment in today’s society seems to be a dirty word or one that is open to individual interpretation.
The Mirriam-Webster dictionary defines commitment as a promise to do or give something, a promise to be loyal to someone or something and the attitude of someone who works very hard to do or support something. There are other definitions, but those are the top three.
To me a commitment means that you promise to be a part of something despite wanting to do other things at times. It means stepping outside yourself and your wants to accomplish an agreed upon goal.
Athletes sign contracts that represent their commitment to a team and the team’s goals. Although most professional athletes these days are really only looking out for themselves and are chasing individual records and the next big contract. There are those few who embody commitment and are a joy to watch.
Employees commit to being at work for a specified time and working within the parameters of their job and having a good attitude. However, many individuals are merely working for a paycheck and with poor performance.
The same can be said about marriage. All too often we have seen friends and family get married, just to get divorced shortly thereafter. Celebrities change spouses about as often as they do outfits and go on trips celebrating the end of their commitment.
A commitment of marriage is one that is for life, not meant to be taken lightly. It’s not a commitment until you tire of the other person or decide you want something else. It’s promising to set aside your individual wants and working toward a combined goal. That goal should be one that is ever changing as a couple evolve in their relationship.
Marriage is a journey without a destination. A journey that lasts a lifetime and just like a journey anywhere else, you go through different climates and altitudes. It’s full of ups and downs and green grass and dry patches. It’s not the destination that matters the most, but it is the journey and the things you experience along the way.
Committing to another person and allowing them to hold the keys to your heart is not an easy task and one that should not be taken lightly. It’s hard to be that vulnerable and exposed, but it is worth the risk.
Marriage is not a job where you can decide you want something different. It’s not a sport where you can switch teams, and it’s not something to be taken lightly. No other commitment is as fulfilling or life changing.
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Paul Barry is managing editor and can be reached by email at paul.barry@vicksburgpost.com or by phone at 601-636-4545 ext. 123.